Death and loss always bring up the what ifs, and the regrets. And its those hurdles that we must push through no matter how difficult they may seem. My way of pushing through them, is to find ways to help others heal. I always seem to worry about others first, and myself last (probably not what I should be doing). So when those close to me lose someone, I take the two talents I have and pick a stone and wrap it to make a pendant to help them make it through this difficult moment. The stone I choose for occasions like this is almost always Apache Tear. Though in some cases I have used other stones more suited to that person in particular.
Hug your loved ones close, and don't hold grudges. For tomorrow is never promised to us.